In this video by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, he discusses the 9 attitudes of Mindfulness.
Mindfulness is the idea of living moment to moment, with non-judgemental awareness.
Dr. Kabat-Zinn says that while this seems like a simple concept, it can be hard to practice as we often get caught up in our states of mind, and our use of personal pronouns such as “I”, “me”, and “my.”
Mindfulness is about differentiating between who we think we are, and who we actually are, and about cultivating the following attitudes in our everyday life.
- Beginners Mind – Orientation to present moment where everything is fresh and new. We bring ideas and attitudes to every moment based on our previous experiences. Beginners mind is about being disciplined, and not being stuck in our current ideas or opinions. It is about challenging ourselves to see things as if we are looking at them for the first time, and not the way they were a half hour ago or two years ago.
- Non-judging – Part of working definition of Mindfulness. We form ideas and opinions on everything, and there is a steady stream of inner dialogue about what is good or bad, or what we want or don’t want. We should evaluate and be aware of how judgemental we are, and recognize how we can get imprisoned by it. We should instead cultivate discernment, so we can seek clarity, wisdom, understanding, and interconnection of things, as judging creates a veil or filter over eyes. Awareness of this judging will allow us to live authentically in present moment and not through unhealthy habits of the mind.
- Acceptance – This is an active process. It is not resignation, but rather recognition that things are the way they are, and not the way we want them to be. This doesn’t mean we that can’t work on changing the world or our circumstances, but we shouldn’t force things to be a way they are not. It is understanding where you stand, so you can take the first step forward.
- Letting go – This is the opposite of grasping. It is letting things be as they are, and is the doorway to freedom. Every time you catch yourself clinging to something, let it be. Just as we take breath in, we have to let it go. Letting go is about receiving and releasing and not holding on to things.
- Trust – This is an area that we are sometimes strangers to. We need to trust that everything will take care of itself. Embracing trust will not only benefit ourselves, but our relationships, dealings with other people, and life’s challenges. We must reside in our abilities to meet whatever comes towards us. While we do not want to trust naively, we can trust other wisdom factors to help guide us.
- Patience – We are often impatient as to get to the next important thing. As we rush to get somewhere else, we are never in the present moment. We need to recognize that some things can’t be hurried, and that they will unfold when they are ready. Practicing patience involves Acceptance.
- Non-Striving – This is an act of non-doing. It is going along with the unfolding of life without an agenda, or looking for a better moment or escape. The more items we place on our to do list, the more we should focus on non-striving. What we will get will come out of being and appropriateness to the situation.
- Gratitude – We’re alive! We often take for this granted.
- Generosity – How powerful it is to give yourself over to life? Not for selfish gain, but to give joy to others. To devote your time and attention to someone else.
Dr. Kabat-Zinn ends by saying that the mind and heart are the same word in Asian languages. Therefore, these attitudes are part of heart-fullness. He says the profound thing is the way these attitudes interconnect, and how they can help us see people as they are and to find common ground.
This video is a great reminder of how our ego can get in the way of us living to our fullest potential, as the ego causes us to see things through the filter of our beliefs and experiences.
Practicing Mindfulness can help us to rid ourselves of preconceived notions or biases, so we can look at everything around us with an open mind. As a result, we can learn to not make everything about ourselves. To not take things personally, worry about being right or wrong, and being slighted or insulted. To not dwell on the past or future, but to be in the present moment with a clear mind.
Mindfulness reminds me of this quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Notice he didn’t say the way you “think” about things. “Looking”, to me, implies the soul, or the mind. “Thinking” brings the ego into play.
If executed properly, Mindfulness is the antithesis of anxiety, fear, or worry – the key to better living.
All we have to do is open our minds.